Saturday, January 10, 2015

Dallas, A Shining Example ???

My little corner of the universe is a city named Dallas. If you haven't ever visited this now all grown up little prairie town, you should. She is world class, a true international gem. Even if you haven't stopped by in a few years, come back, and prepare to be impressed. If you've lived here for a while, like a child that has grown up before your eyes, it happened all around you and you hardly noticed; but here she is, something very special, a very shiny city with so much promise. What shall our child do with herself? There is so much opportunity! Much of which lies in how we take care of our less shiny parts.

All around there is an architectural feast. The performing arts venues, the visual art museums and galleries, including the Nasher Sculpture Center, which by itself put the moniker of "world class city" in conversation, all are brilliantly designed and curating the best in their art forms. High-rise buildings down, up and all around town have created a skyline to rival any other. Residential, commercial and public buildings by the world’s most renowned architects abound. The new Klyde Warren Park, bridging downtown to uptown is a testament to the drive of the people and leaders in the city. It also serves as a keynote for a city that has set aside more green-space than any other in the country.


Speaking of bridges, the Margaret Hunt Hill (Santiago Calatrava designed) bridge has become a new icon for the City (and it's about to be flanked by two more similar beauties. Less visionary people have referred to that bridge as a bridge to nowhere, when in fact it is the result of some dedicated city leaders over decades to be sure our city grew well in all directions, not just the traditional north. 



I could go on and on about the architecture, the amenities, the ease of travel and the accessibility of all that one could want, including suburbs and an amazing city in its own right (Fort Worth) just 30 miles to our west. In fact I must interject that with all that Dallas has to offer, Fort Worth may well be one of the best cities to live in the country and offers a culture and arts ethos that are also world class. The Kimball and The Modern Museums are both amazing structures, housing amazing collections and events. And between these fine cities sets the DFW International airport, now boasting direct flights to every corner of the world. DFW is one the major economic catalyst for the area.

Yes, we have find sports teams, but let's talk economics. Dallas is a prominent player in the global energy industry, and recent years have proven to be some of the most significant in production. Dallas and Texas in general has proven to be a resilient area in terms of economic performance…avoiding the depth of recession felt by other areas. World wide fossil fuel dependency has certainly proven beneficial to the local economy; however, statistically Dallas is quite a diversified economy as well, and businesses are relocating headquarter operations here in record numbers. A young, educated and highly skilled workforce is one of the reasons for the attraction. This area is simply a well-developed, wonderfully livable, transportation friendly, multiple-urbanized "Metroplex".

Of course we have problems, and as the cliché goes “problems are just challenges, and challenges are opportunities.” Albeit our challenges are high in volume and mass, and it follows then, so are our breadth of opportunities. The good news -- we are exceptionally positioned to deal with them, and make The City of Dallas and beyond more than "shiny". Dallas can and should be an outstanding example of how cities wrestle and win the intertwined fights against poverty, homelessness, hunger, and substance abuse. Education is not mentioned as a problem because it is the lack of education that is the major problem; and moreover education is one of the major weapons in dire need of gentrification. 

Here’s the thing – part one: We are a city with strong and engaged leadership – political, business, educational, religious et al, who are dedicated and well versed on facing these challenges. They are ready. It seems that the leadership just needs the intransigent masses to wake up and join the pursuit. Mayor Rawlins and his predecessors have and are pushing on all fronts. Larry James and his CitySquare mission are absolute paradigms in the fight against the base causes of poverty. Yes, they are providing jobs. Yes, they are providing life skills and work skill training. Yes, they have developed scores of social bridge and elevation processes; YES they are chipping away at the poverty challenge. Plenty of examples of leadership and change methods abound, but help is needed.

Here’s the thing – part two: (I only accuse that of which I am guilty.) We, of medium means and above, are hiding. We live in our nice homes in our nice neighborhoods, and we figure out ways to get our kids in the few nice schools, and we shield our views from the realities so near. It’s time to change. It’s past time to change, and the required change is mildly disruptive, yet loaded with reward.

First, let’s all pop our heads out of our fairy land and look at the real world surrounding us. Second, let’s say in unision “wow, look at this great community and all of the opportunity for me to help”, and finally let’s do a little “googling” and find out where we can apply our resourceful wherewithal to get behind our awaiting leadership.


Micro to macro -- individual change affects other individuals, which affects the community, which affects the state, which affects the nation, which affects the world. I can, you can, and we can do this, Dallas! We can do this, Metroplex! We can do this, United States!

Friday, January 2, 2015

SOUL SELFIE

I'm holding my phone (camera, crazy cool hand held computer) as far out as I can. STOP, Okay now I have it on an extension arm. Still not good enough to capture my Selfie Image...at least not the way I see me. So, I'll have to snap shot this one with words for me to see me! (You can look too.)

No doubt you have heard the expression "he or she is an old soul". I've met many people, young people who seem to be "old souls" They seem to have special wisdom, better clarity on how the world unfolds...certainly a better understanding of life's deeper meaning than I have. 

As an older person, beginning to gain small amounts of wisdom, I'm convinced I must be a "young soul", even an adolescent soul, impetuous, chasing all that glitters, like a puppy that can't decide which toy to play with. One friend many years ago referred to me as a "flake". Geez, the truth can be painful, but not too much for a young soul like me. I was too flakey at the time to grasp the accusation! 

Just because I changed jobs every time I received another offer -- just because I couldn't maintain relationships, just because I loved to move (my mother said I moved every time the rent came due)...and just because I have embraced all matter of change and pounced on all kinds of things that looked good at the time, does that make me flakey? Well perhaps, or maybe that kind of behavior is just indicative of a "young soul".

Oh I admire, even envy, old souls though they don't seem to have as much fun as young souls. I do sense the elder souls get some entertainment out of we young souls. In business I really admire the old souls. It seems to provide them a prescient edge. Take for instance real estate investors who buy properties and have visions of developing those properties over decades and do so successfully. It's a challenge for me to have any sense of the future beyond the now.The notion that I would ever age by a decade always escaped me. I must be a toddler soul! I've sold out of most ventures, just when they were warming up. My old soul partners made a lot more money that I did, but I've always enjoyed the start-up phase.

We young souls are so emotionally volatile - while older souls have a much more calm approach to life. The well seasoned souls seem to never bet too high, nor too low. They are so even keel, even in rough seas. We young souls do seem to laugh harder, and cry harder as well. I cry at all movies seriously...must be a baby soul!!

Here's the rub, old souls vs. new souls presupposes some on-going participation in the Universe. Reincarnation if you will, a concept which as a young soul I have trouble grasping. So, I wonder if older souls than mine believe in that stuff. I wonder if old souls have some awareness of having been a young soul previously. I hope so. I'd definitely like to try being an old soul one day, but it doesn't seem to be likely in this life time.

Oh well, it's cool to be alive and wondering about my soul. I am resolving to make 2015 a determinative year, a year in which I reach some level of middle aged soul Nirvana. I'm committed to tempering my youthful enthusiasm with a splash or two of experience based wisdom. After all things that are tempered are stronger. Did a young soul just say that?

Happy 2015 to all souls young and old! May we all eventually become like Old King Cole... Jolly Old Souls.

Thursday, May 30, 2013

Holy Procrastination, Fate, and Moderation!

Man O Man!  Where have I been? It's been way too long since I have found time for this meditation medium! Or maybe it's a catharsis vehicle...whatever I need to rant. No pictures this time, you place your own mental pictures, where need be.

Regarding FATE: I think fate, even destiny are real universe factors..don't you think? You kind of know it when you're in a fateful time. It's a bit like surfing, you don't create the wave, you just look for it, feel it and ride it as best you can.  You also have to be careful of a "wipeout"!  I've experienced bullet proof attitudes on fate rolls, it never ends well...tossed up on the beach, bruised and half drowned. Yes, I have made the same mistakes more than once - such a putz!

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I am riding a fateful event series even now.  Amazing career twists have fallen upon me, but this time I am cautious, proclaiming my enthusiasm based vulnerability, trying not to get too tricky...no "hanging ten" this time. I'll provide more details as the surf subsides. Look for "a funny thing happened on the way to retirement".

Speaking of mistakes and bad judgement: I've often thought about the errors (often horrible errors) born of ignorance that we as individuals and as a collective society have made (and make).  Racial prejudice...as a child growing up, I just didn't get it...separate water fountains, separate bathrooms, schools, entrances to restaurants...all seemed to be just "the way it is". How horrible.  Thank God, some (few at the time) could see the ignorance of our ways and initiate some long term change. Astonishingly, some among us still don't get it.

The list of traditional ignorance born atrocities is long, too long and continues!  Obviously we are not over the hump of racial prejudice at home or around the world, but strides have clearly been made. Gender prejudice, religious prejudice, AGE prejudice continues. and plenty more that I am too ignorant to list.

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I do wonder what I (we) are blind to just now. What are the issues that we will look back on in a decade or so and say, "how ignorant we were then"? Planet sabotage may well be a big one.  I remember growing up, we just through trash out on the highways, somehow thinking the earth would soak it all up.  Until finally we noticed our land looked a mega mess from our misuse. Still today we have to have "Don't mess with Texas" campaigns and the like to help us with our ignorance. Are our eyes closed wide open again?

What do you reckon we are doing to the planet? Are we going to bake ourselves out of existence with our ignorance.  Send me a note would you? Tell me what you think? Tell me what you think it is we are missing now. Where is our major blind spot?  Economic prejudice, human rights, water conservation?  What are the issues we are missing while we are so busy fussing over probably less important things.

With all of that said, I think I'll stop rambling. I've written on moderation before, so I won't re-preach in full, but I will say,  that I will be surfing fate and attempting to reap the benefits in moderation. I will do what I can to moderate my abuse of the planet. I will take a moderate listen to both sides of issues, including the causes of global climate change. I may move to a more moderate climate, if I can find it. I'd like to give some effort to helping cure the causes of poverty and the prejudice that is associated with it.

I will not moderately tolerate hatred or other vile behaviors born of ignorance.

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Monday, March 18, 2013

The DeFrosty Spring Charity Golf Classic

Don't you dare miss it! Many of you know of the inaugural Frost Charity Golf Classic, held this past December.  Whether you missed it or made it, don't you dare miss the Spring version on April 1st...The DeFrosty.  In fact, don't let your clients, suppliers, friends miss it!

Do you really want to miss this?!
The 15th at Stevens Park
Yes sir, that's right, Stevens Park in Oak Cliff -- she's had an extreme makeover, she will be a very plush green by April 1, welcoming all comers.

focusEGD is the proud sponsor. For 75 bucks, you can enjoy a great day with spirited folks. Carts, lunch and perhaps a beverage, and prizes are included. Best of all the proceeds benefit CitySquare, where war is being waged on the root causes of poverty (and progress is being made).

If you are someone's customer and the seller keeps asking you to join them for golf one day.  Call them up now, and say, "hey, I've got a deal for you..."  If you are a business developer and have been dying to treat a key prospect to just the right afternoon, well...

Fore!!!  Great golf coming your way!!

Tuesday, March 12, 2013

In a Rut

Imagine you're in a deep ditch, a rut, if you will, one that you cannot see out over the egde. Pretend that ditch is just a few feet wide and seems infinite in length...no end in sight.  You can see a bit of blue sky, and a little green grass over the edge, but that's it. You're in a rut!

Most of the time when we hear someone say, "I am stuck in a rut", we get a sense that they are just in a bit of a repetitive loop, just doing the same old things, the same old way. Perhaps it's a bit more profound, however. To the person in a rut, it can feel much more daunting, even depressive. A rut can feel almost impossible to climb out of.

What is one to do? Search for a root! Create a toe hold of some kind and reach for the edge and pull one's self up! Often efforts to get out of rut feel futile. Even though we try to escape, our footing can feel like we are not getting traction...our toe holds are giving way.  That's when we have to reach deep inside and find Presence to give us the strength to keep trying.  Sometimes we have to call for help.  Everyone needs a helping hand at times. Perhaps we just need to look for another opening, more sky, more breathing room.  

In any case the first step is to recognize ruts and look to make a change, ignoring whatever and/or whomever makes us feel bound.  Ready? Get set, let's go. That simple.



Friday, February 8, 2013

Laughter...


Yesterday I dealt with sadness, today I am ready to lighten up!  I mentioned positives and negatives, Yin and Yang, opposite ends of the spectrum that hopefully have a balance point.


Think about laughter and it's counter emotional eruption, crying...fascinating things we humans do, and there is quite a bit of evidence that other animals do as well.  But think about it, what makes us move over the line from smiling to gutteral utterances of joy?  I'll bet our laughter types are all as unique as our fingerprints. 

Check this baby out!  Happy to be born, doesn't know about all that is about to happen, right?
I want that utter bliss and the loss of control that goes with it! Just like this sweet child!



 Of course Clooney laughs all the time, all the way to the bank, all the way to the next beautiful girlfriend. However he doesn't always laugh. He doesn't laugh at the other side. He seeks to help.  Oops, I'm slipping...laugh it up George!

Ah hahahahhahahaha, cackle, cough, oh oh oh, har, har, Ah hahahahaha!


Are you laughing yet? I hope so, if not think of one of the dumbest yet funniest things you have ever done, and let it go.  You deserve to laugh, you are created to laugh (and to cry) but today we are on laughter, so go for it.  Laugh it up!

LOOK, even forced laughter helps! In some cases it might be a matter of life or death!





Even Mona Lisa cracked up, during one setting! 





Are you laughing yet? Please do, let it go, hopefully in public, then watch those around you. You know it's contagious.  We could use an epidemic of laughter. It's therapy, and it will help us face the serious with more aplumb. After all there is sadness in need of repair. Think I will start with myself.  Ah, ha, ha......


Have a fun weekend, friends.



Thursday, February 7, 2013

Positives?

I was just about to post a little thought about the balance of things, the positives and the negatives, the pros and cons, the yin-yangs of life, you know. Just before I began, I paused to read Larry James' Urban Daily Blog, which is always poignant, and often painful...today, particularly heart wrenching for me. 

Please take just a moment and read Larry's comments, regarding "Sadness, Deep Sadness", and pay special attention to the final call and question: 

Poverty creates a foreboding culture defined largely by deep, thick sadness.

Good news to the poor always involves driving the sadness out of life--a mission that can be accomplished only in a community that embraces sadness.  To deliver hope a community must live out of a commitment to understanding, honest self-evaluation, and radical dependence on those who know this sadness best, those who live it out every day. 

I wonder if we're up to it?


To answer Larry's question, we have to be up to it!  I know Larry and the fine folks of CitySquare face it everyday, while most of the rest of us choose to turn our mind's eye away. I am very grateful to CitySquare, who try desperately, yet methodically to help our neighbors. I also know that Larry and his team have a foundational belief that "the light shall overcome the darkness".  However, it is so hard to envision a necessary quorum of us, being up to facing sadness, bred of poverty and dealing with it, but we simply must be up to it.  

Larry, you have shown us a way, and the message lives vibrantly. In growing numbers we must open our eyes to the sadness, embrace it indeed and expand the solutions you have initiated.

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In maturity one begins to see repeatable patterns in life. Yes, with good comes bad, and even negative events usher in new opportunities. Positive and negative charges make the world work elementally   Our decisions rarely yield perfect results, but rather the sets of good things and the not so good. Often, what seems a positive move, yields unexpected negative consequences. Pendulums swing from left to right, dark to light, and offer the possibility of balance, sustainability.

But the weight of sadness, profound sadness, seems not to have a counter balance...or does it? Is there hope? Is there even minuscule possibility for joy, true happiness? I think yes, if we are up to facing the sadness of our neighbors and believing in the potential for light.  If we can learn from the sadness, find hope, and participate in solutions, perhaps some sadness can be made to change directions.  Perhaps, just perhaps...